Caribbean vacations are great, but that’s not where our marriages get strengthened. It’s the everyday affections and moments of connection that keep our relationships strong. In this episode of the All Pro Dad Podcast, host Ted Lowe is joined by BJ Foster and Bobby Lewis to talk about ways to show our wives we love them every day.

Why This Matters
Husbands should aim to make their wives feel loved every day.

Key Takeaways
-Love is a basic human need.
-Everyday affection beats infrequent, grand gestures.
-Connection is built in small, consistent moments.

Notable Research
Dr. John Gottman’s six-year longitudinal study found he could predict divorce by observing just the first three minutes of a conflict conversation. Couples who began with negativity were far more likely to divorce, while those who began with gentleness and small expressions of positivity were far more likely to stay happily married. Gottman’s research also showed happy couples “turn toward” each other’s bids for connection about 86–87% of the time while unhappy couples only do it about 33% of the time.

Practical Tips for Husbands

1. 1. Handle conflict with kindness.
2. 2. Respond to her bids for connection.
3. 3. Celebrate her wins.
4. 4. Laugh together.
5. 5. Show love through non-sexual touch.

Important Episode Timestamps

00:03:11 – 04:10 | Why Small Acts Matter More Than Big Gestures
The hosts explain why everyday service often means more than grand romantic moments.

04:10 – 05:09 | Radical Selflessness Builds Strong Marriages
Marriage thrives when both spouses focus on giving rather than keeping score.

05:57 – 06:47 | How You Start Conflict Predicts Marriage Health
Dr. John Gottman’s research shows the first three minutes of conflict are critical.

06:47 – 07:41 | Handling Conflict With Gentleness Instead of Negativity
Gentle starts lead to healthier conversations and longer-lasting marriages.

11:48 – 12:11 | Responding to Your Wife’s Bids for Connection
Happy couples consistently turn toward each other instead of ignoring small connection moments.

12:11 – 12:59 | The “Stop and Drop” Rule for Husbands
Stopping what you’re doing shows your wife she matters to you.

14:09 – 15:21 | Celebrating Your Wife’s Wins Builds Intimacy
Dads are encouraged to intentionally notice and celebrate what matters to their wives.

18:00 – 19:04 | Why Non-Sexual Touch Is So Important in Marriage
Simple physical touch reduces stress and strengthens emotional connection.

19:04 – 19:39 | The Power of a 20-Second Hug
Research shows hugs lower stress, blood pressure, and increase emotional safety.

21:37 – End | Choosing Daily Connection Over Autopilot
The episode closes by reminding husbands that love is built through consistent, intentional presence.

APD Pro Move:
This week, choose to do one of the five actions steps with your wife.

Sponsor:
The All Pro Dad Podcast is proudly brought to you by Family First, a nonprofit dedicated to equipping parents with resources to strengthen their families. Learn more at FamilyFirst.net.