Moms tackle mountains of housework, cook great dinners, and organize the family calendar with the precision of a surgeon. They do so much for their families. In this episode of the All Pro Dad Podcast, host Ted Lowe is joined by BJ Foster and Bobby Lewis to acknowledge moms and discuss how we as dads can lighten their load.

Mother’s Day is coming. How can you involve your kids in the day and make sure it’s a memorable one? Here’s a helpful hint: Breakfast in bed is never a bad idea. Let’s talk about some Mother’s Day ideas for your wife, and how we can continue to serve her after the holiday ends.

Why This Matters

Moms are important, and not just on Mother’s Day.

Key Takeaways

• Unequal distribution of the mental load in marriage leads to resentment
• Moms carry an “invisible load”: Episode 47 of the iMOM Podcast breaks this down very well.

Practical Tools for Dads

1. 1. Acknowledge the invisible load moms carry in the home.
2. 2. Step up without being asked, to lighten the load on your wife.
3. 3. Reframe household chores as teamwork. It’s all about partnering with your wife.
4. 4. Teach kids to contribute.
5. 5. Make Mother’s Day and every day meaningful.

Important Episode Timestamps

00:00 – 00:54 | Introduction & Big Question of the Day
Ted, BJ, and Bobby introduce the episode and ask: What can dads do to lighten the load?

00:54 – 02:07 | The Invisible Load of Motherhood
Discussing the mental weight moms carry every day—beyond what’s seen or acknowledged.

02:07 – 05:11 | Real-Life Examples of Mom’s Hidden Work
Personal stories that highlight how much moms silently handle without complaint.

05:11 – 06:06 | Jimmy on Relationships Video Clip
A powerful breakdown of ways dads can ease the stress of Mother’s Day—and every day.

06:06 – 09:13 | It’s Not About the Spa—It’s About the Mental Load
Why relaxing one day isn’t enough if a mountain of stress is waiting when she returns.

09:13 – 12:13 | Teaching Kids to Help Lighten the Load
Using visuals and practical strategies to help kids understand and carry their share.

12:13 – 15:03 | Sharing Household Roles Without Being Asked
How proactive planning and team-based language shift the household dynamic.

15:03 – 18:00 | Stop Assuming—Start Participating
Reframing help as partnership, and breaking the habit of letting her “handle it.”

18:00 – 22:00 | Five Ways to Lighten the Load Year-Round
Practical takeaways: Acknowledge invisible work, step up unprompted, and involve your kids.

22:00 – 26:19 | Pro Move of the Week: Own a Task Without Being Asked
Pick one invisible task to take on permanently—without needing to be told.

All Pro Dad Pro Move:
Choose one task that can be taken off your wife’s plate. Do it this week and stick with it.

Sponsor:
The All Pro Dad Podcast is proudly brought to you by Family First, a nonprofit dedicated to equipping parents with resources to strengthen their families. Learn more at FamilyFirst.net.