Is There a Secret to Balancing Marriage and Fatherhood?

Ep. 91 – Is There a Secret to Balancing Marriage and Fatherhood?

Your kids need help with homework. You wife needs you to start dinner. There is a lot of juggling going on. How do dads do it well? In this episode of the All Pro Dad Podcast, host Ted Lowe is joined by BJ Foster and Bobby Lewis to talk about balancing the roles of husband and father well.

Why This Matters

It’s important for men to thrive in both of their crucial family roles.

Key Takeaways

-Most U.S. men are dads: About 60 percent of men aged 15 and over are fathers. (U.S. Census Bureau)

-Millions of U.S. men are married: In 2022, 67.85 million men in the United States were married.
-Your wife and kids are gifts: You must balance your time well between them.

Action Steps to Split Your Time Well

1. Know your duties.
2. Identify your distractions.
3. Trim the fat.
4. Establish rigid boundaries
5. Stick to those boundaries.
6. Don’t feel guilty over those boundaries.
7. Commit to reevaluating those boundaries in the future.
8. Look for opportunities.

Important Episode Timestamps

0:00 – 01:09 | Marriage & Parenting Journeys
The dads shares how long they’ve been married and been dads, blending humor with reflections on their stages of life.

01:10 – 02:00 | The Conflict of Time
The battle between spending time with kids and investing in our wives is real.

02:01 – 02:41 | A Dad’s Testimonial on Priorities
A listener’s email highlights the difficulty that results when men don’t juggle their responsibilities well.

02:42 – 03:47 | Big Question: Balancing Roles
The hosts ask how to juggle “dad duties” and “husband duties,” stressing the danger of child-centered homes.

03:48 – 05:21 | Limited Time & Cultural Pressures
From Google searches to everyday struggles, they explore the lack of resources for dads balancing family roles.

05:22 – 07:25 | Remembering Family as a Gift
Wives and kids are framed as gifts, while tension is acknowledged as something to manage, not eliminate.

07:26 – 10:05 | Action Steps for Balance
Practical advice includes knowing your duties, avoiding distractions, and simplifying life.

10:06 – 13:20 | Rituals, Boundaries, and Seasons
The dads emphasize predetermined family rituals that adjust with life stages but remain consistent.

13:21 – 16:46 | Pro Move of the Week: Find out where you can inject quality time into your relationships and commit to those steps.

Sponsor:
The All Pro Dad Podcast is proudly brought to you by Family First, a nonprofit dedicated to equipping parents with resources to strengthen their families. Learn more at FamilyFirst.net.