The compatibility lie

George Levinger wrote some wise words: "What counts in making a happy marriage is not so much how compatible you are, but how you deal with incompatibility."

Next time you see an advertisement for an online dating service, notice what they're trying to sell – people finding compatibility, not learning conflict resolution. There's a crucial difference. Your marriage succeeds or fails on two things – communication and working through difficulties.

Learn how to put your marriage conflicts to R-E-S-T. Read this, and don't buy the lie that compatibility is all that counts.

Huddle up and ask your kids tonight:  Did I ever tell you how your mom and I met?